🎒 Southeast Asia in Retrospect: The Trip That Changed Us

We didn’t see it all—but we saw more than enough to be changed

Southeast Asia isn’t just a place you travel to. It’s a place you feel. The heat, the chaos, the calm, the kindness—it all seeps in and leaves something behind. When we first started planning this two-month journey, we knew we wanted to make the most of our time. We booked our stays ahead, crafted a loose itinerary, and dreamed of city lights, jungle hikes, and underwater worlds.

But the truth is: we also learned that you can’t plan for everything. Nor should you.

Japan: nature, reverence, samurai

🌏 Our Route at a Glance

• Japan (Kyoto & Tokyo) – 6 nights

• Thailand

  • Bangkok (3)

  • Koh Tao (5)

  • Koh Samui (5)

  • Chiang Mai (5)

  • Western Islands (12)

• Vietnam

  • Hanoi (2 + 2 for Ha Long Bay)

  • Da Nang (3)

  • Phu Quoc (5)

• Malaysia (Kuala Lumpur – 3 nights)

• Indonesia

  • Bali (Conrad + Hilton stays)

  • Nusa Penida (day trip)

• Singapore – 3 nights

  
  
  

  

  

  

  

  

  Thailand: exhilarating experiences, delicious mangoes, Thai massages, island atmosphere

Travel Stats

✈️ 15 flights (International + Domestic)

🛥️ 6 ferries

⏱️ Average flight time: 2 hours

🗺️ Total duration: About 2 months

We never felt like we took too many flights—especially with so many islands and remote destinations in the mix. But we definitely felt the mental load of not knowing where we’d go next in the final weeks. There’s something comforting about structure, especially when you're balancing adventure and rest.

Vietnam: Train street, mouthwatering cuisine, and unforgettable experiences

💭 What We Learned

1. You don't have to do everything

In Chiang Mai, I caught myself feeling like we had to book something just to “make use” of the time. I wish I could fully shake that urge and simply be. But I’m so grateful Simon booked the Thai cooking class—that memory still lingers warmly.

2. Planning gives peace of mind, but freedom is gold

When we left the last two weeks open, it stressed me out at first. But it also gave us the space to listen to how we really felt. That freedom led us back to Thailand’s western coast—something I had secretly hoped for all along.

3. Some places you know you’ll return to

Japan is already calling us back. I never stopped my Duolingo streak and was genuinely ready to return this autumn 2025. There's just something about the culture, design, and energy that feels both grounding and inspiring.

Thailand offered so many different perspectives—major cities, the east and west islands, and everything in between. Next time, as more experienced divers, I’d love to do a liveaboard in the Similan Islands and maybe revisit some quieter beaches with fewer motorbikes.

And then there’s Vietnam. We barely scratched the surface. I’d definitely go back, especially to explore the north beyond Hanoi—places like Sapa and smaller towns—to get a deeper sense of everyday life and nature. Timing it to warmer weather would be key for that part of the country.

4. Weather and timing matter

Vietnam’s north was chilly when we were there, and Bali brought unexpected storms. We didn’t go further north than Hanoi, but if we return to explore places like Sapa, we’ll be sure to plan it during warmer months to really enjoy the landscape.

The same goes for diving—Bali’s Manta season was off when we visited. It’s one of those things we’d time differently next time around. Whether it’s beach days, hikes, or dives, checking seasonal patterns makes a big difference when you’re chasing meaningful experiences.

5. It’s okay not to love every place

We were dazzled by Singapore’s tech and sustainability—but don’t feel the need to return. Malaysia didn’t click for us, though we heard Langkawi is great for diving. Every destination teaches you something—even if it’s just what you prefer.

Malaysia: remarkable architecture

💡 If You’re Planning a Trip Like This...

• Accept that you won’t see it all. Leave space to return.

• Plan accommodation ahead—but not every step. A balance works best.

• Leave space for downtime. Sometimes the quietest days give you the best memories.

• Choose your season wisely. Weather matters more than you think.

• Track your travel style. Flights vs. ferries, city buzz vs. island time—what recharges you?

  
  
  

  

  

  Singapore: an exceptional airport experience, stunning nighttime light displays, and a commitment to sustainability

  
  

🧳 What’s Next?

As we pack away the flip-flops and sunscreen, a new chapter begins. From warm beaches to snowy mountains—we’re off to Whistler next. A change in pace, a change in wardrobe, but with the same love for slow travel and shared moments.

Bali: Unwinding on the beach and exploring Nusa Penida